I Like My Choices

Hi there internet friends.

After having finished The Fault in Our Stars for the sixth time - I am that kind of pathetic fangirl -  a few days ago I couldn´t stop thinking about this one qoute. It even haunted my dreams.

This qoute is almost the last sentence in the whole book but that isn´t the reason that I can´t stop thinking about it. The reason is that I there is so much truth in just this one sentence. John Green, you did an incredible job here.

"You don´t get to choose if you get hurt in this world" - Of course not. What kind of world would we live in if nobody would ever get hurt? We don´t just get hurt if we get close to people and lose them, we also get hurt by the words people use against us and more importantly, if something doesn´t work out the way we want it to. But when does anything ever work out as we planned it? The coincidences in this world are not under our control and we shouldn´t get hurt by it because we know that. Still we - or at least I am - are hurting every time. 

The only hurt we can protect ourselves from is other humans hurting us. But then again we would need to stay alone and let nobody close to us if we´d want to do so. Humans are pack animals, we can´t be alone all of our live. But people hurting us is inevitable. They either leave us or say something inconsiderately that hurts us. Staying alone can´t make us happy, so any kind of protection will be useless if we want to live a happy life.

"But you do have some say in who hurts you" - Exactly. As said, it is inevitable that people hurt us, but we get to choose if the weird look that this one girl at school gives us hurts us or if we just smile back. There are people so close to us that a judging comment can really hurt us, but we can decide if we love them enough to take it as a constructive criticism or if we get hurt by it. After all, we are the ones who decide which people we allow a place in our heart and which ones we keep outside.

In the end, we need to get hurt. How would we distinguish the good times from the hurting ones otherwise? But we also need to have happy, careless fun times. All we need to do is find a good balance. There´s this saying in the movie version "If you want the rainbow, you have to deal with the rain" and that, also, is very much true. 

Have a wonderful day


If you enjoyed my little ramble, why don´t you leave me a comment with your thoughts on it? Every little comment makes me really happy and I will try to reply to all of you.