Changes & Anxiety

Do you ever just want to throw away everything you own, grab the people you love and move to a whole new country? Because I get that feeling all the time. However, when change actually comes around the corner I shy away from it. Turns out, no matter how much I crave a big change I´m much more terrified of it - and my anxiety might play a big part in that. But change is inevitable and something we should embrace. I´ve compiled a list of 7 tips that help me embrace change with my anxiety.

Autumn Makeup I´m Excited For

Morphe 350S Palette; Urban Decay Naked Ultimate Basics; Catrice IcoNails Gel Lacquer Crab Attention; Essence My Must Haves Matt Blush Cosy Rosy; New Look Super Matte Liquid Lipstick Dark Rose; NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream Monte Carlo
Ever since the weather got dull - which let´s be honest was in August - I´ve been super excited to get my autumn makeup out. However, due to my summer holiday in September I refrained myself from going full-on autumnal. Now that I´m back from holiday and autumn is officially around the corner I´m sharing some makeup products I´m really excited to get back out for autumn!

4 TV Shows I´ve Been Obsessed With Lately

Oreo; Pimkie Scarf; Macbook Air; Fresh Flowers
It´s that time of the year for pumpkin picking, hot chocolate sipping and Netflix bingeing. The fact that not leaving my house for days while I watch one episode after the other is finally socially acceptable again makes me super happy. To get you started into your bingeing season I´m sharing 4 tv shows that I´ve been obsessed with in the past few months (you know, while it wasn´t socially acceptable yet).

#StayHappy2017 Update

Girl On Rocks Looking Over Sea
At the start of the year I said I didn´t want to set myself resolutions as it was more than likely that I´d fail them all - as has been true for almost all previous years. However, in collaboration with NRS Healthcare I set myself a few to challenges to #StayHappy2017. Now that the year is almost over it´s time to take a first look and see how well I did on these challenges.

7 Things I Do On A Lazy Day

Fresh Pink Roses
When I finished my main bulk of work for this semester last month (aka finished the first draft of my bachelor thesis) I had no idea what to do every day. Suddenly my life went from 24 hours not being enough in a day to 24 hours being just so much time. I kept asking myself "What do normal people do on a lazy day?" and honestly, I still have absolutely no clue. So instead I thought I´d give you a list of the things I do on lazy days to feel productive.

Tanya Burr Cosmetics - Review

Tanya Burr Cosmetics Lipstick Pink Cocoa; Tanya Burr Cosmetics Soft Luxe Lip Gloss Martha Moo;Tanya Burr Cosmetics Illuminating Powder Peonies Please
I really can´t help it but I´m just such a sucker for packaging. So when I spottet the gorgeous new packaging of Tanya Burr´s makeup range I absolutely fell in love. For the longest time I couldn´t get my hands on the shades I so badly wanted though - insert super sad emoji. However, last month they finally were in stock! I went ahead and picked up three products that I hadn´t tried before. Here are my thoughts on the Tanya Burr Cosmetics Lipstick, Tanya Burr Cosmetics Soft Luxe Lip Gloss and Tanya Burr Cosmetics Illuminating Powder.

Croatia First Impressions

I´m currently sat at a long dining table in a gorgeous mansion looking at a stunning view of the Adriatic Sea and listening to the constant stream of raindrops agains the window. Yeah, I didn´t think this sentence would end that way either. I´m currently on my summer holiday in Croatia but sadly, the weather isn´t really playing along. Still I thought I´d make a little post for you and give you my first impression of Croatia - mainly because I had this dream of blogging on holiday and I´m not giving up on that.

Things I Learned From My Favourite TV Show Characters

iPhone 6S, NYX Lingerie, Zoella Sweet Inspirations Body Mist; Primark Choker Necklace ; Notebook
Let me tell you a secret: I´m a total fangirl. Okay, you might have already guessed that from my Twitter account. The secret might rather be that you don´t have any idea how much of a fangirl I really am. But even if this might seem weird to people it´s actually a really great thing; there´s always an amazing internet community to talk to, you get to spend your time watching shoes that make you incredibly happy and most of all you get to learn a lot of different things from a lot of different characters. Here are just 7 things I learnt from some of my favourite tv show characters.

Can Makeup Revolution´s Retro Luxe Matte Lip Kit Hold Up To Kylie Cosmetics?

Makeup Revolution Retro Luxe Matte Lip Kit Echelon; Kylie Cosmetics Matte Liquid Lipstick Candy K; Primark Eyelash Curler; Fresh Pink Roses
By a show of hands:  Who als has way too many lipsticks and still buys more? *holds up both hands* I´m such a sucker for lipsticks in general and very specifically liquid lipsticks. One of the most featured lipsticks on this blog might be the Kylie Cosmetics´ Matte Liquid Lipstick in Candy K. I feel like I just keep repeating how much I love it. However, they´re hard to get in Germany and they´re quite expensive so when Makeup Revolution released their lip kits I was over the moon. The Retro Luxe Matte Lip Kit in Echelon was in my basket faster than I could even think and when it arrived I found it strikingly similar to Candy K. So I put both to the direct test (aka wearing them each on half of my lip) to see if Echelon would hold up as a good dupe to Candy K.

Staying Cool In Stressful Phases

Fresh Pink Roses; Zoella Stationery Book; Primark Necklace
I just finished my B.Sc. in Psychology - rather I am just about to finish. Writing a bachelor thesis is kind of stressful in itself. Now add that onto the workload of a normal semester. You can imagine probably what I´ve been doing for the past five months. One of the most important things during stressful phases like that is to stay calm, focused and on top of yourself. So here I´ve compiled a list of 10 tricks that have helped me stay cool in the last stressful phase!

Is Belle Suffering From Stockholm Syndrome?

Red Roses; Makeup Revolution Renaissance Lipstick Awaken; Urban Decay Naked Ultimate Basic Palette; Primark Eyelash Curler Rosegold
What did you think of Beauty & The Beast the first time you saw it? I distinctly remember being terrified but also absolutely loving it at the same time. As I got older more and more people were telling me that it was just a story sugarcoating the effects of Stockholm Syndrome. Little, uneducated me immediately believed it. But with the live action film coming out this year and my background in Psychology now I started to question whether Belle is actually suffering from Stockholm Syndrome.

5 Things You Can Do Right Now To Show Yourself Some Love

Fresh Roses; Blurry Background Heart of Tic Tacs
The longest relationship you´ll ever have is with yourself. It took me a while to realize how true this statement is. When I first heard it I was a bit skeptical but now I´m a firm believer in taking care of and loving yourself. We´re just kind of stuck with the body and the mind that we get, so let´s make the best of it! When it comes to self-love we all know the tricks with making lists of our positive features,  taking time for yourself, and reminding ourselves that confidence is super attractive. Those techniques are awesome but they can take quite a bit of time and planning to be effective. Here I´ve compiled 5 little ways in which you can show yourself some love right now - no props needed and they´ll only take a few minutes each. They´re also great if you just need a little pick me up during the day!

Morning Skincare Saviors

Foreo Luna Play Black; Lush 9 To 5 Cleanser; Fresh Roses
For all the years that I´ve finally understood what a skincare routine is (& why I need one) I have never found a routine that really seemed to help my skin. I have combination skin that is quite acne-prone and most of the products seem to working fine for it. However, I´ve never had a product that made it noticeably better. Well, until now at least. Because I think I´ve found the perfect morning skincare routine for my skin! These two products have honestly saved my skin!

P.S. Also welcome back here! I´ve finally finished my exams and my bachelor thesis and can now get back into blogging. Thanks for all your kind words and well wishes on my Currently Absent post!

Currently Absent

Flowers in front of a House in Biberach, Germany
Hello lovelies,

I´m so sorry but this is just a little post to notify you that I´ll be taking a little break from my blog right now. I´ve talked before about how blogging is currently not really my priority in life. Right now my to-do list is just getting bigger and bigger and uni deadlines are approaching fast. I could definitely continue putting out content but I don´t really see the use if my heart is not in it. I don´t like the feeling of rushing my blog work just so I can continue working on the more important projects. I´ve been very absent from social media in the past few weeks already and since that´s one of my favourite things about blogging, I don´t see the point of purely putting out content and not being part of the community! I really hope you understand my reasons and again, I´m very sorry!

Hopefully I´ll be back around the 9th of August when most my deadlines have past & I´ve written my last ever exam for my bachelor´s degree!


How To Enjoy Makeup In The Summer Heat

Urban Decay Naked Skin Foundation, trend it up Pure Serenity Soft Lipcream, H&M Blouse
I absolutely hate wearing a full face of makeup in summer. I mean, heat, sweat, and heavy makeup are just not a great combination and make me regret putting anything only face. Yet there are some days/events where I don´t feel very comfortable not wearing any makeup - like last year when I had to work 5 days a week. The last summer definitely taught me a lot of tricks when it comes to making makeup more fun in the summer heat and today I´m sharing those with you!

P.S. Many of these tips are just great for keeping your makeup in place as that is always my main issue.

Quick & Easy Vegan Dips

Tomato & Garlic Dip; Guacamole; Vegan Sour Cream; Vegan Chocolate Dip; Bread
Since switching to a dairy-free diet there´s not much that I really miss when it comes to food. Of course, it´s difficult seeing my friends eat pizza with lots of cheese but in general, I´m good living without dairy - besides the fact that it means not fighting my stomach as much. Theres one thing though that always bothers me: There are so little options when it comes to dips without dairy! So for the past few months I´ve been experimenting with different recipes and have found 4 super delicious yet super easy vegan dips that will serve you for any occasion.

Signature Scent: Zara Jasmine Eau de Perfume

Zara Jasmine Eau de Perfume; Primark Eyelash Curler; Fresh Peonies
There´s something about wearing a perfume that makes me feel so special. I love purposefully choosing the scent of my day; I feel like it gives a direction to my day as well as a little more of a sway to my hips. For years I´ve been on the hunt for an affordable signature scent. You know, a perfume that´s the exact right mixture of sweetness and darkness that it can be worn all year around with any outfit and for any occasion. A scent that I can identify myself with - however weird that might sound. I think I have finally found that scent in the Zara Jasmine Eau de Perfume.

Am I Still A Beauty Blogger?

Lahaye Oval Brushes; Primark picture frame; Primark Quote; essence The Metals Eye Shadow Rose Razzle-dazzle; essence The Metals Eyeshadow Ballerina Glam; Nars Velvet Matte Lip Crayon Bettina; Kiko Eyeshadow, essence My Must Haves Palette, Trend It Up Comfortable Matte Liquid Lipstick
If you´ve been with me on this blogging journey for a while you might have seen a few changes in my posts lately. Following Lisa started out as a blog centered around beauty and makeup - partly, because that was all I knew in the blogging world and partly, because makeup is something I absolutely love. While I still try to include beauty topics every month I´m sharing more and more personal or general lifestyle posts now. This has recently led me to question whether I can even still call myself a beauty blogger.

Metallic Makeup Picks

p2 Techno Chrome Nail Polish 050 Bronze Cut, NYX Cosmic Metals Liquid Lipstick Speed of Light, Primark Necklace, Ikea Decoration
As with almost every trend the metallic trend almost completely washed over me. The only thing I really fell for was rose gold and copper everything... and I mean EVERYTHING. However, when I looked through my makeup drawers lately to find props for a flatlay I was very surprised to find a decent selection of metallic makeup products. I must´ve picked them up one by one without realizing that I was slowly adopting the trend. So here are a non-metallic lover´s metallic makeup picks aka metallic products that you can incorporate into your everyday makeup.

5 Reasons Why Podcasts Are Awesome & My Favourite Ones

Apple EarPods; Kiko Less Is Better Cream Blush; notebook
I really never pictured myself as a podcast gal. "I have a hard time listening to audiobooks so why would I enjoy podcasts?!" were my exact thoughts one day. But oh boy, was I wrong. When my anxiety got worse music just wasn´t enough anymore to calm me down. I needed something more and that´s where podcasts came first into play. Nowadays, I´m listening to podcasts everyday and even prefer them over my otherwise beloved music. If you still haven´t stumbled into the world of podcasts yet, here are 5 reasons why podcast are awesome. I´m also sharing a few of my favourite ones that I think everyone should listen to!

4 Lipsticks, 1 Shade

Catrice Metal Eyeshadow, P2 Technochorme nail polish, Urban Decay Comfort Matte Lipstick Backtalk, PS Velvet Matte Lip Crayon Uncovered, NYX Matte Lipsitick Whipped Caviar, Catrice Blush
It´s just one of those stereotypes: Women hoard things. I´d so like to prove everyone wrong that says that but funnily enough, I haven´t met one woman that doesn´t hoard something. Whether it´s something typical like shoes or bags or something a little different like cute kitchen utensils or books. For me, that thing is makeup or to specify it a little more: lipsticks. Lip products alone make up about 1/3 of my entire makeup collection - I wish I was kidding! Yet I keep buying more and more. Something I´ve realized recently is that I just keep on buying more lipsticks of the same mauve nude shade because I constantly fall head over heels in love with it. So here are 4 of my favourite lipsticks that are actually almost the same shade - but we´re going to pretend they aren´t!

When Blogging Is Taking A Backseat

f you´re a blogger you´ll probably have experienced the stress of juggling blogging and uh, well... the rest of your life. Blogging is not just a hobby where you need to take away an hour or two each week to attend a class; blogging is a full-time commitment! And I absolutely love that about it because it keeps me busy and gives me something to do everyday that I absolutely love doing. It´s just that sometimes my life needs more of my attention which always makes me feel like a failure. I absolutely hate when blogging ist taking a backseat in my life.

Why We Need Mental Health Representation In Mainstream Media

Recently, I´ve been talking an awful lot about 13 Reasons Why and Dear Evan Hansen here on my blog and over on my social media. Both are very good examples of how mental health is finally being accepted into mainstream media and both are discussed a lot online. But whereas Dear Evan Hansen seems to live on a super hype right now - have you been on Tumblr lately?! - 13 Reasons Why has split the internet. Many people love it but some think it´s a bad representation of the issues it discusses. But here´s the thing: Whether you like it or not this well-produced representation of mental health issues in mainstream media is badly needed!

Cruelty-Free Skincare Haul

Balm Balm Hibiscus Face Mask; Yes To Coconut Ultra Hydrating Facial Soufflé Moisturizer; Burt´s Bees Intense Hydration Eye Cream
I´ve been loving my skincare recently - or rather loving experimenting with it. Since I´ve gotten over that "I have acne so my skin must be super sensitive" phase I´ve been trying at lot more different products. Obviously when I had some vouchers and money from my birthday left I treated myself with a little cruelty-free skincare order. I spent a few hours on the internet as you do and found some great cruelty-free products that I want to add to my skincare routine.

Who Should I Tell About My Mental Illness?

I think it´s very well established that struggling with mental health will impact your life in a major way. Most likely, it´ll be hard to hide that struggle from everyone in your life. Well, unless you completely isolate yourself which should neither be an option nor a goal if you´re already struggling! That then begs the question who should an who do I need to tell about my mental illness/struggles? I remember not finding an answer to this question when I first realized that I had some sort of anxiety issue. So here I´ve compiled a list of people who you should and shouldn´t tell about your mental illness from my own experience and my knowledge as a Psychology student.

5 Style Mistakes I Wish I Never Made

Primark Top, Only Embroidered Top, New Look Super Matte Liquid Lipstick, Primark Eyelash Curler, Topshop Highlighter Glow
Style is something that comes very natural to some people and to others ... it just doesn´t. I definitely belong to the ladder group. When I just grab something out of my closet to throw on I look like a little girl dressed me. But in the past year I´ve really been making an effort to try more things, be braver and bolder and just generally find my own style (and stick to it). And it´s been quite successful - if I may say so myself. However, my teen years (and even my early adult years) were filled with a lot of style mistakes that I regret now and today I´m sharing them with you. Maybe they´ll make you laugh too!

The Psychology Behind Faking It

"Fake it till you make it" is just one of those sayings that everyone has heard about a million times. Or at least I know it was thrown at me from everyone when I was struggling with my confidence. Naive, young teenage me shrugged it all off - how is pretending gonna help me at all?!?! - and just continued her life as usual. Now after almost 3 years of studying Psychology I´ve realized that maybe shrugging it off was wrong. I could´ve build my confidence way easier because faking it actually works and here´s how!

Essence My Must Haves Face & Lips Review

Essence My Must Haves Palette, Essence My Must Haves Highlighting Powder 01; Essence My Must Haves Soft Shimmer Blush 01; Essence My Must Haves Soft Satin Blush 01
With their new releases at the start of the year essence also launched a new range called My Must Haves. The must haves consists of blushes, highlights, lip powders and each shadows in individual pans so that you can create your own 4- or 8-pan palette. I did take notice of this launch but never bought anything from the range until I saw their birthday edition in April. Basically, essence is celebrating their 15 year anniversary and therefore have released limited edition palettes and products for their My Must Have range. The limited live.laugh.celebrate edition is available from April to June this year. With the fun, party look of the palettes I just couldn´t resist and bought the 4-pan version and three blushes, a highlighter, the lip base and a lip powder to fill it with.

I Could Have Been Hannah Baker

If you haven´t succumbed to the hype that is 13 Reasons Why yet I take my hat off for you! I´d also suggest for you to give into the hype as quickly as possible because the show, story and characters are truly amazing! I´ve listed 13 reasons why I loved 13 Reasons Why before on here and I could honestly come up with a hundred more. This show and story are really not coming off my mind and there were lots of parts that really touched me deeply. But one thought has been stuck so deep within me that I just had to share it: I could´ve been Hannah Baker.

Natural Makeup Favourites

Urban Decay Naked Skin Foundation, Tanya Burr Birthday Suit Eye Palete, Primark Bombshell Perfume, Mac Mineralize Skinfinish Soft & Gentle, Manhattan Last & Shine Nail Polish
I´m not really often in the mood to do a full and extravagant makeup look. They´re super fun to create but as I mentioned many times on this blog I´m just to lazy to do this every morning (also sleep is everything!). While I do love feeling a bit more extravagant from time to time I also really enjoy being my down-to-earth self. That´s why you´ll find me mostly wearing a very natural look - which one of my friends recently complimented me on (thanks again *blushes*). Over the years and especially recently I´ve acquired a few favourite makeup items that I´m likely to grab when I go for my natural look.

5 Reasons Why You Should Listen To Dear Evan Hansen

Apple Headphones, Kiko Milano Cream Blush
Firstly, I have to apologize to my neighbours for having to listen to my horrible, horrible singing voice for the past week. I have discovered the magical unicorn of a Broadway musical called Dear Evan Hansen and oh my god, is the music mindblowingly amazing or what?! So for the past week I´ve been singing along to the songs pretty much non-stop #sorrynotsorry. I knew immediately that I wanted to share this new love of mine with you but Broadway is a little bit far away for me to go see and review the musical. Instead I´ll tell you about five reasons why you should listen to the album and why I relate to it so much.

10 Best Blogger Tips I´ve Gotten

iPhone 6S, Asos Watch, Zoella Blissful Mistful Body Mist, Ebelin Blending Brush, Kylie Lip Kit Candy K, Manhattan Last & Shine Nail Polish, Kiko Lipstick
You know why I love blogging so much? Well partly because I love rambling on and on about whatever is going on my mind but mostly because this community is so amazing! I talk to bloggers daily on Twitter and I couldn´t wish for better friends. In my almost four years of blogging I´ve gotten a lot of different tips from other bloggers. After keeping them to myself for a long while now I thought it would be only fair to share the 10 best blogger tips I´ve gotten with all of you!

My Everyday Beauty Tools

Real Techniques Powder Brush, Real Techniques Expert Face Brush, Real Techniques Blush Brush, Lahaye Oval Brushes, PS Pro Oval Brush, Kiko Lipstick, Zoella Blissful Mistful Body Mist, Silicone Sponge
I´d lie if I said that I´m wearing makeup everyday of the week. It has actually gotten really rare that I wear a full face of makeup. I blame this on my semester break & general uni schedule! Very recently I shared my honest everyday makeup routine which is what my makeup looks like on those rare days. Alongside with that makeup goes an array of beauty tools. I thought I´d be lovely to see the combination of both together (plus, I´d love to discuss the beauty tools you use).

Let´s start at the beginning of my routine. My foundation is usually applied using the PS Pro Oval Brush. It´s very obviously a dupe to the Artis brushes and the first one of it´s kind that I got. I love how easy it is to use and how effortlessly it blends any foundation on my face. The size is exactly perfect for my whole face; big enough for my forehead and cheeks but small enough for my eyes and nose. What more could I want? Recently I´ve been using my Silocone Sponge for concealer. You can see a full review of it and a comparison of the Beauty Blender on my blog. The reason I´ve been choosing it over my Beauty Blender is that I love the flawless finish that can easily hide all the spots on my face right now. I´ve also found that using it just for concealer doesn´t make my face look as spotty as using it for foundation does.

Real Techniques Powder Brush, Real Techniques Expert Face Brush, Real Techniques Blush Brush, Lahaye Oval Brushes, PS Pro Oval Brush, Kiko Lipstick, Zoella Blissful Mistful Body Mist, Silicone Sponge, Ebelin Blending Brush, Kyle Lipkit Candy Ki, NYX Soft Matte Lipcream

My favourite trio of brushes that I own are the Real Techniques Powder, Expert Face and Blush Brush. There are just so fluffy and soft and even though I bought the first one back in 2014 it still looks as good as new. I use the Powder Brush for applying my powder to set my whole face. It´s easily the best big fluffy brush I have ever tried and it has been a staple in my makeup routine for years now. The Blush Brush is the perfect size and fluffiness for applying my blush. In all honesty my blush has never looked more natural on my face! Now the Expert Face Brush is the one that I don´t use for it´s intended purpose. I´ve found it to be a great size and softness for applying and blending my highlighter. It also makes it look very natural.

Moving on to the last step, my eyes. I have a trio that I mostly use for this too. I bought these two Lahaye Oval Brushes in my local drugstore on a whim and they turned out to be really amazing. Obviously they´re dupes for the Artis brushes as well but this time in a smaller form. These two are amazing for applying eyeshadow very precisely all over my eyes. They also have the perfect mixture of stability and softness so that they take up enough product which is amazing. Plus, they´re super gorgeous to look at! The last brush on the list is the Ebelin Blending Brush and I think it´s my favourite brush ever. It´s soft and fluffy but also has stability and is large enough to blend really effortlessly. Sadly, it´s been discontinued and the one they have now is just a tiny bit too fluffy and just a bit too small (I´m picky when it comes to blending brushes)! I´ve been using this one for years and it´s beginning to look a bit grubby but I know this is probably the one brush I´ll use until it´s on its last fibre (don´t judge me!).

Lahaye Oval Brushes, PS Pro Oval Brush, Kiko Lipstick, Ebelin Blending Brush

I´m really into soft and fluffy brushes - as you can tell - as they feel so amazing on my face and I think that´s why I have such a love for Real Techniques brushes. None of theirs have disappointed me yet! I don´t know if it´s weird that I don´t use any other beauty tools during my makeup routine but this has proven to be the easiest and quickest way to get my makeup done. I also don´t use a lash curler anymore because my lashes are so straight that it only works for a second so it´s not worth the effort for me. Plus, I´m kind of lazy. I´m definitely open for suggestions of amazing brushes and other tools (preferably cruelty-free) if you´re tried any! My brush collection can always be growing.

What is your favourite brush/beauty tool? Do you curl your lashes?

How To Help Someone During Anxiety And Panic Attacks

Anxiety is, like many other mental disorders, a very complex experience. It´s often hard to understand for the people suffering and even harder to understand for someone who isn´t. I mean how could you understand someone being afraid of something irrational so much that it controls their entire life? During my personal fight with anxiety I´ve found other people to be a very helpful resource. but how is someone supposed to know how to help if they don´t understand what´s going on?! Here´s a little guide as to how everyone can help a person that is suffering from an anxious episode or panic attack.

What Is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a mental disorder that, in its very basic conception, is an overreaction to a reasonable (or unreasonable) fearful situation. It is often accompanied by a lot of worrying in general, panic attacks and physical symptoms like elevated heart rate, sweating or feeling sick. There are thousands of different anxiety disorders and therefore different experiences of symptoms and triggers. It can also be caused by a variety of factors but some anxiety patients recall a certain traumatic experience that was the started point. It´s a very individual disorder so talking with the person that is suffering from it is always best.

For me there have been two distinct forms when my anxiety comes up. First off are anxious episodes. These are a longer time period in which I have a rather high anxiety level where my thoughts spin around my worries and I experience mild physical symptoms. If it´s worse these episodes could take weeks until their over. Often their caused by something I´m afraid of in the very near future or general stress. Secondly, there are panic attacks. It´s the typical thing you hear about with anxiety: a short time period (most likely 10-20 minutes) in which I feel extremely anxious, can´t think about anything else and experience high physical symptoms.

The First Step

When someone confides in you and tells you that they´re struggling with anxiety you´re most likely in a position where it´s likely that you´ll be with that person during either an anxious episode or panic attack. The first and most important step in that situation is asking the person for how you can help them should they experience any symptoms around you. As I said before anxiety is a very individual thing so what works for someone else might not work for your person. Asking this question while they experience such a situation is often not really helpful as they might not be able to express themselves or might not even know what they want. But with experiencing a few episodes or attacks people with anxiety quickly learn what will help them in that situation. Nonetheless if you´re unsure around a currently anxious person ask them! If they can´t give you an outright answer try coming up with ways to help them and just ask them if that would be okay. Often a nod or shake of the head is still possible.

To help you come up with ideas on what might be helpful or just get a general idea of how you can help someone suffering from anxiety I´ve listed 5 things I would like someone to do during an anxious episode or panic attack.

How To Help With An Anxious Episode

1. Be aware of changes in their behavior. The most important thing is noticing when an Episode beings because it rarely ever announces itself. Whenever I experience an anxious episode I pull everything inward as everything is surrounding my worries. So noticing if I keep my hands to myself (or even at my belly) or if my eyes are centered on whatever is in front of me and mostly if I still actively take part in whatever is going on around me are great indicators.

2. Directly speak to them. While everything pulls inward so are my thoughts and worries that are then taking over my mind. Try to talk to me and get me to actively engage in a conversation. Often forcing me out of my head that way can make me click out of my episode. If that doesn´t work just keep talking at me to give me something else to think about. Please be aware though that you should always speak very calmly and relaxed to someone with anxiety. Screaming at them will not drown out their worries but rather make them worse.

3. Give them support. Simply be there for me whether that is done by talking with me through my worries or simply giving me a tight hug. Often getting a more rational view on my worries gives me a bit more confidence and like many other anxious people I really like the feeling of being supported by someone. Also I often tend to forget everything that I´ve already accomplished despite my anxiety so reminding me of those things really helps.

4. Try to take their mind off. Similarly with talking to me just do anything to get me out of my own head. I know that for me watching short-lived, colorful, lighthearted and engaging content (e.g. Friends) really helps calm me and my thoughts down. I also really like watching Youtube videos in those situations. Just make sure that whatever you´re putting on for me has no triggers in it.

5. Go outside. Movement is honestly the best antidote to an anxious episode as my brain has to focus on it rather than whatever worries are currently spinning around my head. Plus, fresh air is always the best thing and definitely helps to clear my mind and make me breath deeper. So having someone to encourage you to actually go outside and not dwell on the anxiety is amazing!

How To Help With Panic Attacks

1. Give them privacy. When I have a panic attack I only want one thing: escape the situation. Your first step should always be to help me accomplish that. If we´re alone or at home try to leave the room of if we´re in public with no private space try to act as a wall between me and other people. This might sound contradictory but also stay close by to help me get through the panic attack. This could be done by staying in front of the door that is left a tiny bit open. Just whatever you do don´t look directly at me.

2. Help them remember ways to overcome panic attacks. When you´re staying close by you can remind me of certain breathing or relaxation techniques that I´ve learned in therapy. I know many of those techniques but sometimes when I get into a panic I might just not think about them. So reminding me is always helpful. If you can´t think of a certain technique in the moment then just encourage me to take deep belly breaths. That is the easiest and most common technique.

3. Be predictable. As much as jumping in and out of the room to bring me everything I need is a very cute gesture please don´t do it when I´m having a panic attack. When I´m being taken over by my own thought I can´t anticipate your next move and therefore am easily startled which will drive me deeper into the panic. Just try staying close and talking me through your every move before you actually move so that I know it before it happens. I might not consciously hear your words but my body will anticipate movement on your side.

4. Ask them to do a very basic task. While deep breathing is a great technique to slow down my physical symptoms my brain might still be occupied by panic thoughts. Try to ask me to repeat a very simple task such as raising my arms above my head or counting backwards from a set number over and over again. This will activate a different area of my brain and therefore make me focus on something besides my worries.

5. Take care of them afterwards. A panic attack is basically a big rush of adrenaline in my brain that decreases during a (hopefully) short time. So I feel almost dead afterwards. When I do just take care of me. Give me food, water, quiet and something I can watch or listen to. Help me relax and overcome the horrors I´ve just experienced. Depending on how I´m feeling a few hours later making me go outside for a walk or even seeing really close friends (very simple, comfortable things) can also help a lot to go into the next day with a positive feeling.

It is important to remember that my personal experience doesn´t account for every person that is suffering from anxiety. That is why talking to the person is really important. I honestly wished my family and friends would have asked me what exactly to do once we established that I had anxiety. I can only imagine how hard somebody´s anxiety can affect the life of other´s (as I´m mainly the person with anxiety). But if it affects me this much it must have a pretty bad effect on the people around me as well. I just hope whatever position you´re in that you´re staying safe and taking care of yourself too. Helping someone fight anxiety is a difficult and important task but you should never risk  your own mental health for it. Yes, anxiety is a very tough fight but it´s a fight that can be won!

13 Reasons Why 13 Reasons Why Is Amazing

Notebook with the 13 reasons; Lahaye Brushes; Tulips; Primark Accessories

Have you ever read a book that stuck with you for years afterwards? For me one of those books was 13 Reasons Why which I read when I was about 13 years old. It was such a gripping story that I read it within a few days (or rather nights). I mean, my 13-year-old self with school every day gave up sleep for this book! Sadly, somehow over the past eight years I forgot most things about this book and story but I did remember the feeling and fascination from back then. Watching the whole show in two nights I absolutely loved it and just can´t stop thinking about it. So here are 13 Reasons Why the 13 Reasons Why Netflix Original is amazing (even if you´ve never read the book!).

Book Round Up 2017 I

I´m honestly such a fangirl. I love being totally submerged into fictional characters, their stories and their universe. I consider fictional universes to be one of my safe and happy places. Books were my gateway drug and the first way I entered any fictional universe. I used to read so much from such a young age on! But as I got older things got in the way and I haven´t read as much as I wanted for ages. This year I´ve set myself a goal of 20 books though and am quite determined to read at least that much. So here are all the books I read during the first quarter of 2017.

Travel Lipstick Picks

Nude Stix Lip and Cheek Pencil; New Look Super Matte Liquid Lipstick in Dark Rose; NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in Cannes; Kylie Matte Liquid Lipstick Set in Candy K; Nars Velvet Matte Lip Pencil in Bettina
As you might know I´m constantly traveling back and forth between my own flat at uni and my parents´ house. While I´ve become really good at packing in the past 2.5 years you can bet that I´ll bring too much makeup with me every time. In all honesty, when I´m at my parents´ I very rarely ever wear makeup as I´m mostly working at home. For the first time in the past years I´ve limited myself for this semester break and only took four lipsticks with me ... or so I thought. It turns out that I actually took eight. So here are my 4 8 travel lipstick picks.

Dear Anxiety, You Suck.

I´m doing that blogger thing of staring at the blinking cursor and just not knowing where to start with this post. Truth is, this is not the post I wanted to go up today. But this is my little safe space on the internet where I talk about the things that are currently relevant to my life. As of right now, the most relevant thing for me is my anxiety. And it sucks.

50 Thoughts I Had While Watching Beauty & The Beast

Ever since I was a little child Disney films were my favourites... right after Barbie films (I was THAT girl). Telling tales of romance, family, friendship and bravery sprinkled with animal sidekicks, princesses and magic; what´s not to love for a little girl woman?! I still get super excited when there´s a new Disney film coming. Immediately, I knew I had to watch the new Beauty & The Beast and so I did last weekend. But what did I think of it? Ist is just as good or even better than the first Disney version? Here are 50 thoughts I had while watching the new Beauty and The Beast.

Warning: Spoilers ahead, proceed at your own risk.

7 Things To Make You Happy

Pink Tulips, H&M Sweater, NYX Soft Matte Cream, Lahaye Brushes
Despite the first day of spring having been on Monday I´ve been feeling pretty under the weather. I don´t know where this has come from but I know that I have to do something about it. And guessing from my Twitter feed, many of you are feeling similarly. I guess it´s down to this constant weather changing. But instead of sulking in self-pity here are seven things we can all do to feel happier!

Soak In Signs Of Spring

While it might look grey and dull outside most of the time right now, the weather predictions are actually quite positive. Spring is definitely on its way now and soon the glorious sunshine days will outweigh the rainy, dull ones. Also I can hear the birds chirp gin outside, there´s flowers and trees slowly blossoming everywhere and their smell is slowly taking over the air. Spending time outside and appreciating all the little signs of spring approaching will make you instantly happy. Just look at those happy, bright flowers!

Spending Time With Loved Ones

One thing that is guaranteed to make me happy is being around the people I love. As I´ve been at my parents for my semester break lately, I´ve been spending a lot more time with them and that is something that always pulls me out of a rut. Just being in contact with your loved ones, planning and doing activities can make all the difference in the world. As a little bonus, it´s sure to take your mind off of things and sometimes talking about whatever is putting you down can help you get through it.

Pink Tulips, H&M Sweater, NYX Soft Matte Cream, Primark Necklace, Manhattan Last & Shine Nail Polish, Lahaye Brushes, Zoella Blissful Mistful

Escape The World

This might sound counterintuitive but getting out of your head and your problems for a moment can be so refreshing and make you instantly happy. It might even give you a solution which you haven´t thought of before just because you´re starting with a fresh and relaxed mind. So go, grab a book, catch up on Youtube, blogs or any tv show and just enjoy a bit of time outside of your own head.

Retail Therapy

I´m definitely not advising you to totally upset your bank balance here but treating yourself to something you´ve wanted for a long time can work wonders for your mind. This can be anything from the chocolate that has been banned from your diet, a new shirt you´ve fallen in love with or a foundation you´ve wanted to try for ages. Retail therapy doesn´t have to be about treating yourself to as many things as possible. Instead it can be about giving yourself a reward for a hard time and just something to cheer you up.

Bring Spring Into Your Home

If you can´t go outside because the weather still sucks, then just bring spring into your own walls. Get not hat good old spring clean an then start decorating again. Maybe even get some fresh flowers and dot them around with pastel colours. Those two things are always guaranteed to put a smile on my face. I´ve also discussed the healing powers of cleaning and getting rid of old things before and this is just one of the easiest things to do to clear your head and lift your spirit.

Pink Tulips, H&M Sweater, NYX Soft Matte Cream, Primark Necklace, Manhattan Last & Shine Nail Polish, Lahaye Brushes

Treat Your Body & Mind Right

This might sound ridiculous but we often abuse our mind and body to the point of breakdown. Making an effort to treat yourself right can make such a big difference to your happiness. Your body needs exercise, fresh air and nutrients. I always notice that after a period of eating only crap I feel like crap too. Making an effort to move your body just a bit (e.g. taking walks) and giving it nutrients can work wonders for me. Similarly, your mind needs rest and stimulation. Sitting in front of a computer screen all day is one of the main reasons I feel like crap. Allow your mind to relax in the evening by having a little pamper session and give it some much needed stimulation by going outside and changing your surroundings.

Appreciate Your Achievements

This is a very cheesy point but you can be so happy and proud of everything you´ve achieved in your life so far. You did survive 100% of the days in your life (which is an achievement tin itself) and you´ve dealt with and gone through a lot of hard times. It really doesn´t matter if you´ve not been productive in the last few weeks or if your grades suck right now or if your blog still doesn´t have thousands of followers. All that really matters is that you are here right now and that you did all of these amazing things in your life. Instead of knocking yourself down about everything that´s going wrong appreciate the things you achieved! That alone can make you so happy.

What works the switch in your brain to find happiness and motivation again will definitely depend on a lot of factors. In the end, it´s up to you to find that one thing that´ll do the trick. For me embracing the little signs of spring and the beauty of the season as well as cutting myself some slack and scheduling in relaxation times help a lot. That always goes hand in hand with spending more time outside which my mind definitely appreciates. I´m very much determined to get out of this rut and start working productively again and those seven things are definitely going to be a part of it.

What´s one thing that immediately puts you in a good mood? What signs of spring can you already see?